But I often found myself questioning, "why not me?" You see, I'm one of the many U.S. women who have struggled with infertility and pregnancy loss. It took me a long time to overcome the shameful idea that somehow these women were more "deserving" than me. Why should they get babies, while I'd tried everything under the sun to make it happen with no success?! If I'm honest, I'll admit that I sat in a state of bitterness and self-pity for awhile.